After giving a TedTalk that’s been viewed over two million times since 2010, Sheryl Sandberg, chief operating officer of Facebook, published a book called “Lean In” in March 2013.

The book came as a follow-up response to Sandberg’s TedTalk on the ways women are held back, as well as the ways women hold themselves back. “Lean In” offers practical advice on succeeding in the corporate world as a female and highlights the gender differences in the workplace that still exist in today’s society.

Sandberg discusses the notion of “having it all” as a female in today’s society, with regards to a high-end career, a family and all that the two sides entail. She’s ranked amongst Fortune 500’s “50 Most Powerful Women in Business” and is listed on Time Magazine’s “100 Most Influential People in the World.”

This idea of “having it all” leaves some women feeling unfulfilled and as if they are failing at juggling everything in their lives, Sandberg writes. She writes that women, and men, must decide how much time and work they are willing to put into their jobs, then enforce those limits. Because each action and decision comes with some sort of trade-off, Sandberg writes that it is impossible to “have it all.”

Emily Kelley, coordinator for women’s studies, said this idea of “having it all” is possible but it, too, comes with certain trade-offs.

“You can have it all,” she said. “You just can’t have it all at the same time. (When you want it all) you just wait, if that’s what you want, and hopefully you don’t wait too long (for any one thing).”

While societal norms regarding women in high-end careers have changed, they have not changed that much, she said.

“Yes and no (they’ve changed),” she said. “You see it more recently, but it’s taken a lot of time. The most important thing is that we’re still not there.”

A study released by Wellesley College earlier this year found that countries with greater gender equality have a higher GDP per capita and reduced poverty. Increasing a mother’s education alone leads to a 30 percent greater child-survival rate, but only 4.2 percent of women in the United States are chief executive officers, and only 8.1 percent are top-earners in the country.

“I think (women in top-tier career positions) means that they set an incredible example for other women, especially younger women,” she said.

It comes down to abandoning the myth of “having it all,” she said.